What Can You Do To Help? (MINISODE)

Following a powerful conversation with Debra McNinch about parenting children who identify as transgender, this mini-episode offers personal reflections and encouragement for Christian families navigating similar journeys.

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Chapters

• 0:00 Reflecting on Deborah McNinch's Episode
• 1:16 Personal Update About Host's Daughter
• 2:40 Guiding Christian Parents Through Struggles
• 4:40 Announcement: Tribute to Masculinity
• 7:50 Preview of Upcoming Episodes

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Hello everyone, welcome to a new mini-sode. What did you think of this episode with Deborah McNinch? This was man. This was a difficult episode for me to record. In all transparency, I was afraid to put it out because of its content. I know how divisive it is, how easily people can get canceled, all the hate that comes with it, not to mention, as I said, I have a child who is involved in the transgender stuff. So how was she going to react if she ever listened to this? I don't think she ever will because she's never been a podcast kind of person, but that was just something that was in my mind too. Anyone who has heard me mention it before. I don't like confrontation, so for me to want to do this episode seemed really funny, but I knew it was necessary. This is a situation that is running rampant in America, in the UK, and it needs to be discussed. Many churches are woefully discussing this, so it was important to get out of my comfort zone and to do this episode, so that is what I chose to do Now with this mini-sode.

Speaker 1: 1:16

I just want to clear up a few things, because that episode was recorded a while ago. My daughter is 18 now now and praise God she has not gone through any surgeries yet. She hasn't really talked about it, although she still believes she's a dude. I still keep it real with her and honest and remind her she's not, and I don't call her by the name she wants to be called by. She's got a boyfriend. That whole situation is interesting to me, but we won't go there. She says she wants to work on her life and get stable. I'm praying and I'm hoping that she means that. Because she's an adult now she takes care of herself. Now I'm still there to support her and love her from here in Connecticut. For various reasons I'm concerned for her, but I know God's got her so I'm not going to worry about it too much.

Speaker 1: 2:12

I don't know where your child is in their journey, if they are going through this, if they have a friend or a family member who says they're transgender. It is an awkward thing because you don't know how to react. There's so many different voices telling you do this, say this, don't say this, don't do that, affirm, don't affirm. Love, don't love. It gets really exhausting. At the end of the day, you need to know what God thinks and what he tells you to do, and then you do that. That is what you should be doing is following what God tells you to do.

Speaker 1: 2:46

It has been a hard journey for our family to go through this, but we are trusting God. We know that he's got her and that he loves her. Just like Deborah was saying with her son she doesn't agree with what he's doing, but she is still mama bear to him. She has not written him off, and that is important. Christian parents and grandparents, we cannot write them off, because that just gives them more fuel for the fire of running away from God. It gives them another excuse to say oh see, this is how the church works, this is how God works. We need to show them that that is not true, that that is a lie from Satan. It is going to be a hard journey. You're going to butt heads because you don't agree on how to handle this situation, but you still need to love them. You need to include them as much as you can and you need to help your family figure out how to pick up the pieces that are falling all over the place.

Speaker 1: 3:40

I love what Deborah said when she mentioned the puzzle towards the end of the episode and that our child is the missing piece. We need to be looking for that missing piece. We can't just be accepting of the fact that it's a missing piece. We need to find that piece and we need to allow God to do what he can do. So keep praying, stay strong, know that God loves your child and he loves you and your family, and just keep trusting Him to take care of them in the middle of their struggles, in the middle of their confusion.

Speaker 1: 4:12

This is such a powerful episode. Please share it with everybody. Because she mentioned it, every church in America has at least one person who is going through this, and they are going through it silently because they feel ashamed, they feel guilty, they feel all this negativity that Satan is putting on them, and they need to know that they are not alone. This has risen in percentages of how many people are claiming to be transgender since they've been teaching it in schools. There's no coincidence between that and with June coming up, who knows what's going to happen? So be there for your child. Love them through it with the truth, the hard truth. It is not going to be easy, but you can do this and if you need help, you can message me at honestchristianconversationscom. Slash contact. I believe that's what it is. Or just go to the main page and you can look up top. It'll say contact me. And you can contact me and ask for prayer and I will be praying for you and ask for prayer and I will be praying for you. If you can join Battle Cry Moms, go to Deborah's website and join there. It is a great community. I have joined that community.

Speaker 1: 5:21

One last thing before I get to an announcement my daughter currently is living with her father and I know I said a few things about him in the episode, about how he's not really wanting to be there for her. I have not been in contact with him for a long time so I don't know if he's changed at all. From what she tells me, it doesn't sound like it, but she is living with him right now and he's trying to help her get on her feet, so I give him props for that. All right, here is your question Do you know somebody who needs to hear this message today, that needs this encouragement from Deborah's conversation? If you do, send it to them immediately after, back them up through this to be their friends, holding their arms up when they can no longer do it themselves. Here's an announcement. Since it's June, you're probably thinking I'm going to continue down this trail with talking about this subject matter, but I'm not.

Speaker 1: 6:29

I have thought about this for many months now and I have decided that June and July are going to be a tribute to masculinity. I just feel a heavy burden for the men. Nowadays. They're getting beat up through culture telling them that masculinity is toxic. Sometimes they don't feel welcome at church, depending on what kind of church you go to. Toxic. Sometimes they don't feel welcome at church, depending on what kind of church you go to. There's just all these different avenues where men are feeling left behind, feeling left out. The whole, my body, my choice, all these different things. There's. There's no excuse for us to bash men, and yet our culture is doing that and I want to lift them up.

Speaker 1: 7:10

So I have chosen that for the month of June and July, I will be highlighting different men who are going to be sharing their stories and what they are currently doing now, and they're very powerful stories, very encouraging. I enjoy talking to each and every one of them. You are going to love these episodes and the first one is going to be a real doozy and you are probably not even going to see it coming, but you are going to enjoy it so much, so make sure you stay tuned for next week's episode. It blew my mind and it has transformed my thoughts and, yeah, I want to give you more, but I'm not going to. You're just going to have to wait until next week. All right, everyone. Thank you so much for listening to this episode. I pray you have a good week, god.